My mother, Gloria Murphy, had a heart attack Thursday night and died about 8 feet from where my father had a heart attack a decade ago.
Gloria Murphy 1926-2017
My mother was born in 1926 in rural Missouri, the youngest in a family of eleven children, four of whom didn’t live to see ten. The Depression hit her family hard and they moved to St. Louis where she went to grade school and high school. When she asked to go to college she was told the family could not afford to waste money educating a girl and paid for secretarial training in typing and shorthand. She found work as a receptionist in a doctors office but retained the desire to continue her education.
When my younger brother went to preschool my mother went to a local junior college part time. For the next decade she took courses part time and when I was sixteen I watched her graduate with a bachelors in History from the University of Missouri at St. Louis. She took a job with the St. Louis County Welfare office for five years before going back to a vocational school to learn Cobol programming. She worked another few years in data processing before her rheumatoid arthritis made it difficult for her to type and she retired.
A Lifelong Commitment to Learning, Reading, and Independence
When I look back over her life I think of her three most salient qualities were:
- A lifelong interest in education and learning.
- A lifelong reader of books and magazines, she purchased larger and larger magnifying glasses that were easier for her to hold and relied on volunteers from the library to bring her books every week. Between her and my father I grew up with an expectation that adults spent time every week reading.
- She lived life on her own terms. She was fiercely independent and even though confined to a wheelchair the last decade of her life she was able to live alone after my father passed. There neighbors and other organizations like Meals on Wheels that helped her maintain her independence, as did visits by my brother and his wife, but she was adamant she did not wan to move.
My birthday was earlier this month and she called me to celebrate. She slipped a card in the mail later that day that said “I used to crastinate. Then I turned pro.” So she had my number. She had called my brother early in the week to thank him for work he did to repair wheelchair ramp. He remarked when we were comparing notes about the last time we had each spoken to her, “Well, we went out on a high note.”
Postscript: A Woman Ahead Of Her Times
My brother left this comment with the picture above:
My mother was a woman ahead of her times. She breastfed before it was a political statement, let alone a health statement. We ate healthy before there was a health food movement – my colon should have the strength of Charles Atlas after all the Muesli I ate as a kid. She was a woman programmer before anyone ever heard of Silicon Valley. She was a woman of strong opinions who didn’t mind enforcing them, which sometimes led to friction and even some combustion now and then. I thought she was an elemental force of nature that would go on forever, or at least a lot longer. But she wasn’t – no one is. We are all frail creatures with our allotted spans. RIP mother, this world won’t be the same without you.
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4 thoughts on “Gloria Murphy 1926-2017”
Even though we know it is going to happen, we are always shocked to see someone go who we love so dearly. My deep, deep feeling of sorrow goes to all the Murphys,
Beautiful tribute to Aunt Gloria, Sean. I learned so much I never knew about her.
Dear Linda and family,
Just read about the passing of your dear and very special mom! I know how hard it is. You are in my thoughts and prayers! She is with God now! God bless,
Sorry for your loss, but it seems like you gained a lot from her :)
Hope that translates as intended. Nice tribute. Hope you are well & things are good.